Father Has Dementia. Father has stroke related dementia. I didn’t know that strokes could cause dementia. I’ve always related the symptoms to stroke as half paralysis but not dementia. I didn’t know it at the time but stroke can cause dementia. Cognitive decline related to stroke is usually called vascular dementia or vascular cognitive impairment to distinguish it from other types of dementia
It is hard to lose Father to dementia. Losing anyone you love is never easy. Losing someone you love slowly is never easy. Father has his good days. Some days its like having Father back again. Some days we get to see Father’s Old Self.
This lens is for my Father. Father’s Day is approaching, however, I don’t think gifts hold any more meaning to Father. In a way, this lens is sort of a gift to Father, a tribute to my father.
About Father – Before The Dementia
In his younger days, father had to look after 5 kids aged from 10 to 18 and a wife stricken with cancer who later moved on
Mother died when she was 46. I was 10. Father became a mother and father to the 5 of us. I was the youngest. The eldest was 18. Father was a policeman and the eldest son in his family. He was strict, strong and many were afraid of him. He was also a neat man.
Mother had cancer. She lived for a year from diagnosis till the time she left us. At the time, we were rather poor. There were no good hospitals where we lived. Father had to travel for 6 hours to get to a hospital. Sometimes he had to travel up and down, looking after us as well as mom.
When mom died, Father became both a mother and father to us all. He never remarried. He looked after the five of us single handedly and worked through till his retirement while making sure we had shelter and education.
IT IS OUR TURN TO LOOK AFTER YOU NOW FATHER.
When Father Started Having Dementia, These Were His Symptoms – Dementia turned my father from a strong personality to a meek and docile one
We didn’t know whether father was having Dementia or Alzheimer’s Decease. Here is a good read about The Difference Between Dementia And Alzeimer’s. In short, it is mentioned in the article that “Alzheimer’s is a type of dementia and that is the main difference between dementia and Alzheimer’s”.
These are some of the signs and symptoms of dementia that father had.
- He started to become forgetful. Sometimes he would leave the tap running and not know it.
- His personal hygiene became lost. Father was an extremely neat and tidy person but dementia took that away from him.
- He refused to take a bath. I don’t know why. I would ask him and sometimes he said the water is too cold. Sometimes he said he was afraid of falling. Whatever it is, he refused to take a bath. It took hours, sometimes days to persuade him. Sometimes he would get angry.
- He started having repetitive behaviour. Sometimes he would take rolls and rolls of tissue and roll them up into a ball over and over again.
- His personality changed. From a strong, proud man, he now became a meek, docile person.
- He started having incontinence. He couldn’t make it to the toilet on time. Sometimes, he did make it to the toilet but he didn’t know what to do next. He would look at me and ask for direction on what to do next.
- Sometimes he could not recognize us.
- He started to have delusions and hallucinations. Sometimes he talked to someone who was not there. Some days he talked about war other things. Those things were very real to him. At those times, we have learned that the best way is to agree with him. Just smile and nod our heads and listen.
- Time started to have no meaning for him
- I think due to some of the medication he was taking, he would have what we call “awakenings” where he would be just like his old self, alert and exactly like the way he used to be. On those days, he would not be able to sleep for 24 hours or more. He would be most agitated and excited. He would read the papers from cover to cover and call any one of us up in the early hours of the morning or night. After these episodes, he would sleep for 2 to 3 days as if his brain was exhausted after all the activity.
Losing Someone To Dementia Is Like Losing Them Slowly, Painfully, Slowly and Surely
It is hard to make the transition from being a child to becoming a parent to your parents
I will not forget the first time I had to help father take a bath. I felt very sorry for him. Sorry that he had to lose his dignity like that.
My Father has been through a lot. He has had another stroke. He had to feed from feeding tubes. He had a colostomy surgery and is now on wheelchair. He needs help to get up and about.
Strangely the second stroke, though disabling him, seemed to have improved his dementia a little bit. These days he is more alert and can recognize us most of the time. That is the most important thing to us. This ability to recognize the ones you love. When he sees us, he usually has a big smile when he is alert. We touch him a lot.
Touch is important in human communication. It is important to look him in the eye and stroke his hand when talking to him otherwise, he does not realize that we are talking to him especially if we are sitting beside him and not in front of him. We must look at him directly in the eye and touch him. When he has delusions, we just listen and smile and sometimes agree before we divert his attention away.
If You Think Someone You Love Is Having Dementia, You May Find The Following Links Useful – Here are some useful links to sites which offer you information abou
Blogging is not the same with Image Search and Pinterest. When I first started blogging in 2004, there were no such things. When you wanted to get traffic, all you had to do was work on your content. Although the say content is king, these days content alone won’t get you enough traffic. If you work on just the writing aspect of your blogging, you will miss out on some of the best sources of traffic, your photos, pictures, clip arts and graphics. These draw readers to your blog too.
Let me show you an example of the magic of Google image search. Below is the screenshot of the stats of my Parenting Blog. I have done a search for “Origami Stars” so you will see only posts related to those search terms. Take a look at the numbers. The blog post “Seeing Stars!” has drawn in 60460 visitors at this point of writing and it is all due to google image search. That’s right. I’m really seeing stars with those numbers. The post itself did not draw in those visitors. It was just an ordinary very personal post about my kids. At the time I did not know much about how to get traffic for my blogs. Many of the tricks I learned about blogging were quite accidental like this although I did read up a lot to learn along the way.
So as you can see, in these days where there is so much information online and so little time for everyone to read. Infographics, instagram, pinterest and anything else to do with little words and lots of pictures are making it big. Even twitter now allows you to post pictures. With so many words competing for readers view, it is no wonder that readers have started to skim through words and look at pictures instead. Pictures with a few words.
So, have I convinced you yet? If you have not started to include pictures or graphics with your blog posts, please do so now and remember to include good descriptions, captions and alt text.
Content may still be King but a picture is the Queen and sometimes the Queen has more say than the King. Happy Blogging!
By the way, when reading this post did you skim over the words and just look at the pictures? Even if you did and despite what I just said, remember that content is still King so you need those too. Don’t go overboard with pictures and forget your writing. Let’s put it this way, you need both the King and Queen to do well in search engines.
Today I gave my Blogger blog a makeover. I changed the template, background and header for my Blogger blog. This was how I did it. Firstly, this was how my blog looked liked before the makeover. I got bored with purple and wanted to give it a more minimalist look. I was using the Blogger “Travel” Template. I switched to the Blogger “Simple” Template. Then I changed the background. I used the background by latex which I found under the “transparent” category for Blogger’s Background Image list. You can find many free background images provided by Blogger. I also played around with the colors of the fonts for links and headings etc. You can read how to change the Background from Google support on Blogger Template Designer.
After changing the background, my blog looked too plain so I headed over here to look for a new free header for my blog. I found my Free Blogger Header from Vintage Made For You. There are many free Blogger backgrounds and headers to choose from there. There are also tutorials to help you. I used the tutorial on How To Adjust The Width Of Your Blogger Blog to help me adjust the header so it sits in the middle.
Then I headed to Pic Monkey (an excellent online photo editor) to add in my blog Title, tagline (which I created) and description so this frees up some space on the top of my blog. This is How To Add A Header Image To Your Blogger Blog. To my horror, I found that my pinterest and Facebook Like button had disappeared after the changes I made because I customized my template previously by changing the html code to add in those buttons. Nevermind, I shall improve on it.
So I headed over here to learn How To Create A Floating Vertical Share Button For Blogger. The instructions are really easy to follow. I had to adjust the positioning a little bit. I also added my pinterest button code in there. All I had to do was generate my own Pinterest button, then copy and paste it over a button I didn’t want. The instructions to replace have all been provided.
Head over here to Generate Your Pin It Button. I replaced the button with the pinterest button by copying and pasting two codes in there one after another. One for “any image” and another for “Image Hover”. The “Any Image” one allows a reader to hit the Pin It button and choose to pin any image they like while the “Image Hover” one allows the reader to see a Pin It Button on any image they happen to hover over. That makes it a lot easier for your readers to pin.
You can head over to my Parenting Times blog to test it out for yourself. Finally, this is how my blog looks like after the changes. Updated: I didn’t like how serious the blog looked after the changes. My blogger blog is a parenting blog filled with crafts and printables for kids so I wanted it to reflect that so off I went searching again for a nice new blog header. I finally found my new free blog header for Blogger at Blog Designs by Dani. As before I used Pic Monkey to add in my blog title and tagline. I also had to adjust the Blogger header size to 900×470 pixels in order to fit in just right. However you do not have to do that. All you need to do is go to Blogger Template Designer and adjust width by dragging the size to the right fit. Refer to the How To Adjust The Width Of Your Blogger Blog link above.
After some tweaking with the colors of my links, headings, tabs etc to match the new heading in the advanced editing mode in Blogger Customize Template (Go to Template-Customize-Advance to do that) finally, here is my newest look. The best part of doing these things yourself is it is free and you can change at your own whim and fancy whenever you like.
However, there was something wrong with my header. It appeared to be slightly different color then the one I wanted. It appears to be greyed out instead of white. Finally, I saved my header image again into a png file instead of jpg and that did it. The colors were right at last and I love my new blog look. Even better, was the feeling of having done it all by myself without a designer. Yay!
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This post isn’t a technical post about the how tos of blogging including SEO and all those technical jargon. Instead, it is a personal post written from the heart and from the experience of a blogger who has been blogging for 10 years.
I have been blogging since 2004. At the moment I write and maintain 5 blogs regularly. They include this blog which focus on me and the things I like to do including online writing, a parenting blog, a blog just for mothers, a health blog and a quotes blog. After writing for some years, I find that I basically write 5 different kinds of blogs. They are:
1. A Personal Blog Post
This was the first type of blog post I started writing. If you are writing a personal blog post, you can write things which are a little bit more personal. You can limit your readers to only those close to you if you like or just yourself. It depends on the individual. Some like to post lots of photographs which is really a nice thing if you don’t mind sharing. Readers love photos. However, I like my anonymity.
Can you remain anonymous and still write a personal post? Yes, you can. I have been doing it for 10 years. I write posts that are personal yet not too revealing. It is okay to be personal without being too personal on your blog posts. You will still get your readers and followers if you remain true to yourself and keep your writing voice genuine. Instead of using personal photos, you can still include photos to make your posts interesting. Post photos of objects and scenes instead.
2. Instructional Blog Posts Or How Tos
I enjoy making crafts with my children. So I find writing how tos or instructional blog posts a natural progression from my personal yet not too personal blog posts. They are a nice way to record and keep our crafting moments in a digital format for keepsakes.
When you write these types of blog posts, you must remember to include lots of photos and step by step instructions to make it easier for your readers. I have written many instructional blog posts like this and this.
After blogging for some time, I started writing curations. Whenever I write a curated blog post, I always put myself in the shoes of the person searching for information. What is this person looking for and how can my blog post make a difference. Then I try to include everything that will help this person who is doing an online search find all the things that they want to know about that subject on a single page. This is the most important factor of all. You have to be an expert curator in order to write such a post so that your post makes a difference to that person instead of being a mere copy of a search engine.
When writing this type of blog post, remember to include relevant links, videos, photos and always seek permission for use of photos. Here is an example of one of my top posts on my parenting blog. It is a curated post of Homemade Teacher’s Day Gift Ideas. Some of the ideas are my own while some others are from my FB friends. I sought the permission from all of them to post their ideas on this post.
4. Reviews Or “Selling” Posts
At one time, paid posts were very popular and many companies looked for bloggers to link to their products, services and websites. It is not so popular now but this is just another way of writing. Sometimes, you may write a paid or sponsored posts while at other times, you may write to sell, for example if you are an affiliate marketer.
For example, I am a participant in the Amazon Associates Program. So from time to time, I do write posts to “sell”. This is an example of my review type or marketing oriented post: 10 Cute Dollhouses For Girls. In a way, this is a curation type of post too.
Photos and descriptions are very important. However, do note that the behavior of someone who is searching the internet for information is different from someone who is searching the internet to buy something online. The person searching to buy something may be more interested in photos of the product and will not have time to read lengthy reviews so keep it short while providing the necessary information they need. Photos and videos are helpful. Just put yourself in the shoes of the person searching for information and think of what YOU would like to see and read in the blog post. That is the best SEO advice anyone can get. You don’t need to know what SEO is or how to do it if you just prefer to write. You will get your traffic just by putting yourself in the shoes of the person searching for information.
Finally, you can write articles of any subject you feel you have the confidence to share in. I like to write a lot of parenting articles that change over time. I used to write breastfeeding articles, now I write about kids education in grade school. You can write about your gardening projects or your pets, it is up to you or something more technical.
I consider this post an article type of post. Articles MUST be genuine and not copied from somewhere else. Do not copy and paste or spin articles from somewhere else on the web.
Extra Tips On Writing Blog Posts That Get Read
- Keep your blog content fresh, relevant and up to date
- After writing your post, create a “cover” for your blog post, then pin your image to invite people to come to read it. Writing blog posts isn’t only about writing. Think of it as creating a magazine with a nice layout that calls out to the reader to read.
- Share your blog posts on social media, FB, Google Plus, Twitter etc.
I like the fact that you can customize the countdown clock according to your liking. There are a few images you can choose from. I usually like those cute cartoon or clipart type not the scary kind since they are for my parenting blog.
You can further customize it by choosing the color, typing your own words and finally adding in the dates. After you’re done, all you need to do is to copy the code and paste it in your blog post or sidebar whichever you prefer.
Apart from Halloween, you can get other Countdown clocks from this site including Christmas, Valentine’s Day, Easter or more personal dates like weddings, birthdays, pregnancy and graduation. Looks like I’m going to be bookmarking this one.
So here it is, my countdown clock for this Halloween 2014. Do you like it?
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