Does your spouse read your blog and how do your feel about it?
Mine does not. At first I was very disappointed that he did not. I was so hard up for him to read my blog that I went to the extend of emailing him entire blog posts complete with comments. Hahaha.
I thought that if he didn’t read my blog, it meant that he did not care about what I thought. I also thought that it meant he didn’t support my blogging hobby. In fact, at first he told me it was a waste of time and he didn’t understand why anyone would blog.
I thought it meant that he was not interested to know another part of me ie the part that comes out in writing. We all have many personalities and I believe the part that comes out in writing may not necessarily be the same as the one that gets portrayed in person. Sometimes the part that comes out in writing is a deeper more meaningful personality. Sometimes in writing you see more of a person.
In that same vein, I tried to encourage him to have a blog because I wanted to know him better. I wanted to read his thoughts because he is not very expressive. (like most men.) If he had a blog, I would probably read it word for word, post for post and try to dissect it.Â Maybe thats why he dare not have a blog. Hahaha.
So, I was disappointed for a while but not anymore. I don’t know when the change occured but all of a sudden, I saw it in a different light. I saw that the fact that he didn’t read my blog meant that he wanted to give me more personal space and as a matter of fact it has given me more personal space. Now I can rant as much as I like. Hahaha. But I seldom rant about him lah. Not because I fear he may be reading but I feel something as personal as a husband and wife relationship should be left that ie personal. I only talk about him if its something good that I want to share or remember and not because I fear that he mayÂ be reading. Thats why I have a Marriage and Relationships category. It would be something general though but in relation to a personal experience. Although I must say that many times I have been tempted to sit down here and bang away at my keyboard when I am really mad at him! Hahaha.
So although I wouldn’t mind if he did read my blog, now I’m actually glad he does not. So I never have to deal with him questioning me “How come you wrote that?” “Wow, you spend so much time blogging?” (He’d probably say that about me taking pics and posting up my kids crafts. Check out our latest craft here: Chain Paper Dolls. Hehe.) etc. So I’m perfectly fine with him not reading my blogs now.Â This way,Â I never have to worry about him misreading or having my blog post misconstrued by him. I think people who know you well may actually read more into what you have written. But I still admire those spouses who are close enough to blog together no I should say I admire those spouses who can blog together, for not blogging together does not mean that you are not close. I think that blogging by one spouse can sometimes lead to some misunderstandings or issues so what more when both parties blog.
Speaking about spouses reading blogs, I wonder whether parents should read their children’s blogs. Almost all of my nephews and nieces have blogs but their parents don’t read them simply because they’re not very computer savvy and don’t know how to find their blogs in the first place but some of them would like to read just to know their child better and to know whats going on.
I guess that if my children are older and have blogs I would want to read them. I don’t think its an invasion of their privacy because it is afterall a public blog. If you post something in public then you must be prepared for everyone to read what you have written, not only those who don’t know you personally. However, I know of many children who hate having their parents reading their blogs especially mums.
I don’t mind if my siblings read my blog but I don’t think they have the time to follow my blog that closely since they’re not bloggers themselves and they all have their own lives to lead.
As for friends, I don’t mind if they read my blog since its just an extension of me and I have nothing to hide. Sadly though, I don’t have that many close friends whom I care enough to give away my personal thoughts to and thats why I keep the url to myself instead of sharing it freely.
And if I had a boss, no, I would not want my boss to read my blog! Nor would I want any colleagues to, even if I don’t rant about work. I believe one must keep work and personal life separate but thats just me. Others may feel differently.
What about my children? If they are grown and they would like to, I certainly wouldn’t mind them reading my blog. I think they would find the archives about bring them up quite funny. Too bad I don’t post pictures, otherwise they would find it even more amusing or perhaps they may go “Awe mum! Why did you pose that naked pic of me?” Hahaha. Mums, have you thought of that?
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Oh yes, my family members, relatives and friends read my blogs 😀
You are very open.
All my family members and relatives are reading my blog and I certainly don’t like the idea.
You should start a new blog for your private thoughts. Haha.
You probably remember I wrote that mine is my no. 1 reader. I actually prefer he doesn’t read but at the same time, I find that it helped in improving our r/s.
The one on parents reading kid’s blog is tricky. I know some are sneakily reading as they pretend to give them space, yet they want to know. Could be playing with fire I feel. I mean if the kid is smarter than the parent, can always catch them through the traffic stats or something right?
As for siblings, no no for me…and even friends!
As long as it improves your relationship and not the other way round than its great that your spouse reads.
I think my hubby has only read my blog for a total of 3 times 🙂 He’s like yours too initially thinking I’m wasting my time. Later, when he read it, he said that he *very grudgingly* said that my writing is good (LOL, he knows his wife loves to be praised!). Also, he’s impressed that I’ve made a number of friends through blogging but does nag sometimes about revealing too much.
I’ve also accepted the fact that he isn’t a reader (except for the newspaper and sports sites) and don’t really mind. He loves the posts on his son though and would come snooping when I play the videos online. Maybe you wanna try using the kids as bait! *Terrible mum*
No, now I prefer it that he doesn’t read. Lol!
i do encourage my family and relatives read on my blog. this way they know what is happening with us since we are all scattered everywhere. Hubby reads too sometimes. so i couldnt write things about other family members 🙁 there are pros and cons 😛
Yes, its a good way of keeping in touch.
From Day 1, I have not been open about my blog with my family. That’s because I wrote about almost every single thing I do while I was staying out (during university). Then one day my sister told me that my Dad discovered my blog. I don’t know if he reads me regularly but I’m very sure he knows I keep a blog, even today. That’s why my contents are written in such a way that, anybody could drop by read and I won’t regret writing it. Everything I write and put up need to be carefully thought and the consequences weighed.
Therefore, today, I don’t feel uncomfortable even if my family members read me because I’m prepared for that anyway. But I wouldn’t invite them, or officially announce to them my site (especially my relatives, uncles, aunts). It’s my personal space and certainly, it’s a separate entity from my real-life personality.
So everything you write has to go through censorhip by you in your head. Hehe.
MG, like you, when I first started blogging, I wanted my husband and kids to read. Then my colleagues got to know my blog. I then found that I could not blog as freely as I wanted to. Then if my daughter doesn’t like something I write she will tell me to take it off.
When I started a new blog having closed my first one, I like it that my husband doesn’t read. My daughter only found out about the new blog two days ago. My colleagues don’t know about this blog. So, I write freely and express myself freely…….unless someone finds out one day. 🙂
I agree with you. There’s less self cencorship when less people read. Just write freely. I like it that way. No need to worry about what so and so may think or of hurting anyone’s feelings unintentionally.
I know my mother reads my blog, which ended up in some very heated discussions about trying to stop me to blog and “air dirty laundry”. Of course though, that’s not possible since there is no way she can stop me to begin with.
So I still blog the way I do, no holds barred.
Now she’s taken to commenting on my blog under an alias. Now that’s just freaky.
I agree with you that its freaky. Haha.
My aunts and cousins oversea read my blog. That’s the way they get updated with the on going since we only meet like once or twice a year.
Hubby initially was my No1 “fancee” and I found it a good way to communicate with him and let him know what’s happening at home during the day while he’s at work. Now he has stop reading all together, because he said I write too much sponsored posts. 😀 He started to think the blog as my work and no longer a journal.
I’m sure he can sieve through the sponsored posts mah. Haha.