anyway, my application was a breeze. i guess coz they had some available in their database then when we applied last month and they told me i can get her as fast as less than 2 months! i chose a 36 yr old who has 2 kids. and seriously, i chose by judging the book by its cover and in this case by her picture. she was the best looking one, not as scary as the rest! she’s also christian indon so i’m paying the highest - somehow, after speaking 2 more and more ppl abt my future maid, i cant help but feel cheated in some ways. i’m wondering whether i will have problems with this agent later on too when the maid comes. hope u get your replacement fast!

Oops. I forgot. The url is here. Look for the post called “What to do to prepare for the arrival of a maid”.

OMG. Did yours hoard food in the microwave oven?

From my previous experience, do not treat your maid too nice like she’s one of your family members, yet don’t treat her like a slave. Don’t get too close to her or she will climb over your head. Handling maids is just like handling your subordinates in an office.
Do update us on your new maid!

You need to find the perfect balance yes? Be nice but not too nice etc. Allocate work but not overwork etc.

I guess you are right about that. Otherwise they may climb over your head eh?

Szu, you can also search around the subang jaya forums has lots of horror stories about maids if thats what you want to read. Haha.

Pls feel free to visit my blog. 10s

Thanks for visiting mine. I’ve seen the tips in yours. Never thought about the 2nd medical checkup part. Thanks.

Regarding the maid, u need both luck and effort. Luck is we hope the maid has good nature. Effort is, we got to treat them as a human, respect them.

We got a maid 8 mths back. She is also here to help with household but I believe she needs to “love” my child too by allowing her to play with him at certain time, so she won’t try to do funny thing with him. We treated her like a our family member, so she won’t have the “heart” to do funny things on us too.

Overall, i still believe if she is really here to work (not to create problem), if we treat them well, they will treat us well too.

So, good luck!!

Of course I haven’t forgotten you. Hehe. I just don’t have very much time to blog hop, that’s all. Sob sob. Wish I had more time. Thanks for your feedback. Yes, there must be some balance yah? We are afraid if she is too close to the child but at the same time there must be some “love” or bond too. Not easy. Thanks for the reminder about that.

My friend would help her maid to pack. I hear that sometimes they are quite innovative in hiding the “souveneirs” like sewn into hem of clothing etc.

The other thing is how much you want your kids to rely on the maid. My kids were so ’spoilt’ that they called on the maid to do everything for them. My wife also rely too much on the maid.

That’s the reason why I decided not to have a full time maid now. We engage a part time maid who just comes to do cleaning. My kids have been surprisingly independent. Part time maid works well for me in that I still have some privacy.

Oh, thanks for reminding me about this kids issue. I give you some linky love for it. Hehe.

Actually the idea of having a stranger,especially with a different culture background, in the house and taking care of my kids. But then we really need one to help out my MIL.

So from day one, I made it a point to my MIL that the maid is only to help out in house chores.

I don’t allow her to carry my kids except when I’m really busy with the cooking and my daughter is throwing tantrum. I reminded her off a few times not to carry my daughter as I don want to make it a habit. N’ I don want my kids get emotionally attached to a stranger, neither do my MIL and I leave the maid alone withe kids. But my kids have to respect the maid oso on the other hand.

Guess you have to set the rule from day one. Let’s say U want your maid to get up early, for the first few weeks, you probably have to get up as early just to supervise them. I see all the maids around my neighbours including ours, gets up as early as 5 or 5.30am.

Get them into a routine like what are the daily tasks they are expected to do.

Oh, the tv… don let them get into the habit of watching TV. We had one who love the idiot box so much, sometimes she show faces when we ask her to do work and she turned on the TV whenever she likes to.

Keep reminding them what they are supposed to do, whenever they forget… till they remember… have to b a bit naggy at times.

We are afraid that if she goes out and mixes around she may meet bad influences, so what else for her to do to prevent boredom but the TV? Didn’t realise that it could be a problem too. Aiyoh.