Comments on: Now he won’t change clothes

By: Contended mum

Contended mum — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 07:36:43 +0000

I am touch by your love for your dad. Not easy to take care of someone with dementia but I guess is time to show our love for the years that they take care of us. You take care of yourself ya

Yes, if we don’t care for our aged parents, who will?

By: WMD

WMD — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 15:59:45 +0000

Reading your dad’s story reminded me of my grandma who had Alzheimer. She did not want to take bath too. It can be very stressful. Hugss to you.

Perhaps you can wipe him. Maybe he will feel refreshed and may later agree to take a bath.

Take care,

Good news! I managed to get him to bathe finally, that is after he pooed in his pants two days in a row. Nvm that. Its still good that he had his bath finally.

By: wen

wen — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 11:27:07 +0000

he wont change or bathe himself. why not u try doing it for him since the pail of water is already in his room? just wipe for him everyday better than nothing at all

I wish it was more simple but there is the question of his stubborness as well as his dignity to preserve.

By: sesame

sesame — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 09:00:38 +0000

Hey, take care. I hope your maid can come in sooner to relieve you of some of the chores or like Adino has mentioned, perhaps get some part-time help first?

It’s not easy to take care of the elderly. I used to help with my grandma but at least, she didn’t have dementia.

The maid should come this month, I hope.

By: Adino

Adino — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 02:50:42 +0000

It sounds like you are doing your best. Keep on persevering. Its touching to read about your love for your father.

Take some vitamin C and drink lots of water. Hope you get over your cold soon.

Perhaps you could hire some cleaners to take care of your household chores?

Vitamin C and lots of water. Okie dokie.

By: Moomykin

Moomykin — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 19:24:04 +0000

I know how you feel. Stress and the turn in roles in relating to a parent. I cared for my ailing dad for 5 years before he passed way.

He had kidney failure and chronic diabetes, almost blind, lost a leg and had a lot of depression. Diet was another complicated issue.

Not so sure how to handle dementia either. Sorry can’t help you there.

I’m sorry to hear about your dad. It must have been a very hard time for you.

By: Bengbeng

Bengbeng — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 13:07:38 +0000

possibly u have to b more firm with him. i am sorry to hear of yr dilemma

Its a delicate situation. We still must respect and maintain his dignity.

By: Ann

Ann — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 11:19:15 +0000

Oh dear, oh dear…

Pray for strength for you and patience. It must be realy tough what with the kids being on holiday as well!!

Hope your health is doing better. You are such a great daughter and mother.

Get those hourly cleaners to help you clean the house for the time being. Take it easy on yourself as well.

Take good care my dear.

My maid should be coming soon, hopefully with no more delays so I’ll hang on till then.

By: sting

sting — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 04:14:57 +0000

sorry to hear that. I could understand… my mum had cancer and during her last days, she was bed ridden and had problems understanding what’s happening around her.. hope you get through these trying times without too much challenges ya.. take care too

My mum had cancer too but she passed on when I was little.

By: henny

henny — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 03:05:23 +0000

MG,
my mom has too dimentia, even worst than your dad maybe because she has Alzheimer disease since 4 years ago.
later then if I have much time, maybe we can share this by email (if you want of course)

Yes, we can share if we find the time.