What makes an attractive person?

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What makes an attractive person. To me an attractive person is one who is confident yet humble. That is a potent combination yet not easy to find.

Self image, self esteem, self assurance is the best gift we can give to our children. I hope I can teach my children to have a good image of themselves because I never had it. I’m still working on it.

I remember in college, I had a guy friend who had very poor self image. He was rich. He drove a car and the popular girls were drawn to him because of it ie they made use of him to get around. Yet he had no confidence. He started every sentence with “I’m sorry but……….” Years later I bumped into him. He had married and had two kids. He was working as a car salesperson. Yet, he still looked sorry and sad. I don’t know what made him like this.

If there was a scale of 1 to 10 for self assurance, I would rate this person at a 1 and myself at 6 maybe 7. I used to be around 4-5. I am continuing to work on it. I think blogging helps. It helps to repeat and say positive things to oneself. It also helps to have positive reinforcement and you get a lot of those in blogging. You get interaction and positive reinforcement.

However, there is always too much of a good thing. Too much positive reinforcement, too much of “You’re so good in this or that ……..” can make your head big. Then you start to write all sorts of nonsense thinking that you are so good and that you know so much etc etc etc and you start to impose your ideas on others. That makes you a boor and a snob and that is so unattractive. Modesty is still the best policy.

Like everything else in life, it is not easy to strike a balance but you must have balance in all that you do and you must have balance if you want to become a better person.


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8 thoughts on “What makes an attractive person?

  1. I’m a Libra, so I think I’ve got a good chance of being that ‘balanced’ person. *wink*

    Well, I’m a Gemini and I’ve got split personality. Hahaha.

  2. I didn’t have a lot of confidence when I was younger.. but I guess as I gained more experiences in life (read: getting more mature) my confidence grows too..

    So its really true, the older you are, the more potent the ginger. Hehe.

  3. WKAAKAKAKAKA..too much of a good thing is not good…

    WAKAKAAKAKAKAKAKAAKAKAK!!!!

    That was sooooooooo funny! I must be going mad…!

    Hey mott. Are you alright? Not having a fever or sumthin? 😉 Anyway, its true isn’t it? We tell you that we find your blog laughter cute and infectious and now you can’t stop laughing around the blogs. Muahahahahahaha.

  4. Oh dear, minimal self-confidence, poor projection power, and this fellow decides to become a (choke) car salesman? A nice back-end job, maybe, but selling cars… sigh. Sigh.

    But, hey, we never thought of taking blogging as a useful exercise in positive reinforcement (in moderation). Cheers for providing another reason to stick with this new hobby!

    Not only positive reinforcement, it’ll really help to know you’re not alone in some things. 🙂

  5. Well, I’m trying to find the balance. I’m that type who doesn’t have enough in myself and find myself always asking myself, “R U so sure you can do this? OR Am I good enough?”

    And I think it come from upbringing, where my parents rarely praised us, like many traditional Chinese family.

    That’s why now whenever my daughter did something good, I will praise her a little, to let her know she did something she should be proud of and deserve a clap, in order to encourage her and help building up her self-confidence level.

    Meanwhile also not over-praise her…hahaha…striking a balance between the two is tough.

    Well, blogging is way to speak our mind and share things we know in a positive way, it opens up a person’s perspective as time goes by.

    Yalah Dolphine, I also find it hard to strike that balance of praising but not overdoing the praise. Haha.

  6. AMEN..!!!

    ““You’re so good in this or that ……..” can make your head big. Then you start to write all sorts of nonsense thinking that you are so good and that you know so much etc etc etc and you start to impose your ideas on others. That makes you a boor and a snob and that is so unattractive. Modesty is still the best policy.”

    i know of one person in malaysia.. who is exactly like this. And i never read her anymore.

    Yes.. modesty is very important.. MG..! thank you very much for reminding me.

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