Comments on: Getting to know my maid http://mumsgather.com/2008/07/22/getting-to-know-my-maid/ My very own mini, personalised, parenting resource. A cyber filing cabinet of parenting articles and links. I love sharing my children's favourite sites, online games, crafts and exchanging childcare stories and parenting issues faced with other parents. Tue, 16 Mar 2010 18:17:54 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Immomsdaughter http://mumsgather.com/2008/07/22/getting-to-know-my-maid/#comment-308963 Immomsdaughter Wed, 20 Aug 2008 05:16:51 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/2008/07/22/getting-to-know-my-maid/#comment-308963 Good luck MG, I hope you get a good one. Good luck MG, I hope you get a good one.

]]> By: Martini http://mumsgather.com/2008/07/22/getting-to-know-my-maid/#comment-298454 Martini Tue, 05 Aug 2008 17:22:44 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/2008/07/22/getting-to-know-my-maid/#comment-298454 yes, actually they (those maids who really want to work to support their family) are very brave and strong. Just imagine they came here to work from far without knowing who will be their employer and for two years they can't see their family. I definitely agree with your points of view. I was lucky, two of my previous maids were not bad eventhough sometimes they did upset me too. Wish you have a good maid! <strong>I believe that they are brave and strong. I had a part time helper who is a grandmother by now and she is still working very hard to support her family back home. However, there are also some who come here not out of own accord but due to parental or spousal pressure. Its tough for them.</strong> yes, actually they (those maids who really want to work to support their family) are very brave and strong. Just imagine they came here to work from far without knowing who will be their employer and for two years they can’t see their family.

I definitely agree with your points of view. I was lucky, two of my previous maids were not bad eventhough sometimes they did upset me too. Wish you have a good maid!

I believe that they are brave and strong. I had a part time helper who is a grandmother by now and she is still working very hard to support her family back home. However, there are also some who come here not out of own accord but due to parental or spousal pressure. Its tough for them.

]]> By: mott http://mumsgather.com/2008/07/22/getting-to-know-my-maid/#comment-293197 mott Wed, 30 Jul 2008 09:48:51 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/2008/07/22/getting-to-know-my-maid/#comment-293197 Thanks for sharing. I never hired a maid..and I guess I will never get a chance to..so, it's interesting to hear their perspective. I hope she won't get scared if you get any seizures. My granma's new maid got a fright when my granma spoke in her sleep. She frantically called my dad up and when they arrived, my granma was sound asleep..but with two bibles side-by-side at her pillow. Apparently the maid put it there to 'scare' the hantu away. Heh.. <strong>Hahaha. Well, if your maid got scared when someone talks in their sleep, she'd probably run away if she saw a seizure.</strong> Thanks for sharing. I never hired a maid..and I guess I will never get a chance to..so, it’s interesting to hear their perspective.

I hope she won’t get scared if you get any seizures. My granma’s new maid got a fright when my granma spoke in her sleep. She frantically called my dad up and when they arrived, my granma was sound asleep..but with two bibles side-by-side at her pillow. Apparently the maid put it there to ’scare’ the hantu away.

Heh..

Hahaha. Well, if your maid got scared when someone talks in their sleep, she’d probably run away if she saw a seizure.

]]> By: shirl http://mumsgather.com/2008/07/22/getting-to-know-my-maid/#comment-291191 shirl Mon, 28 Jul 2008 13:56:35 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/2008/07/22/getting-to-know-my-maid/#comment-291191 I have just recently managed to get my maid to open up a little bit more. My maid is a muslim, as a catholic family we are fine with her taking time to pray. She has similar background as your maid. It was very comforting for me to hear from her that she finds a family in us.I think if we treat them well, it is for them to show their appreciation by doing well in their work. Good luck with the new maid! <strong>Thank you Shirl.</strong> I have just recently managed to get my maid to open up a little bit more. My maid is a muslim, as a catholic family we are fine with her taking time to pray. She has similar background as your maid. It was very comforting for me to hear from her that she finds a family in us.I think if we treat them well, it is for them to show their appreciation by doing well in their work. Good luck with the new maid!

Thank you Shirl.

]]> By: chinnee http://mumsgather.com/2008/07/22/getting-to-know-my-maid/#comment-291018 chinnee Mon, 28 Jul 2008 09:16:55 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/2008/07/22/getting-to-know-my-maid/#comment-291018 my maid almost puked on my hubby's new love (new car) yesterday due to cannot tahan air con, haha....will post the whole story soon... <strong>Perhaps it was the long journey, not the aircon.</strong> my maid almost puked on my hubby’s new love (new car) yesterday due to cannot tahan air con, haha….will post the whole story soon…

Perhaps it was the long journey, not the aircon.

]]> By: Moomykin http://mumsgather.com/2008/07/22/getting-to-know-my-maid/#comment-287900 Moomykin Fri, 25 Jul 2008 16:47:47 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/2008/07/22/getting-to-know-my-maid/#comment-287900 Thanks for sharing. An eye-opener indeed. I'm glad you know your maid better now. Knowing what to expect from her, or what is needed to help her help you will certainly reduce a whole lot of stress. <strong>Yes it helps. :)</strong> Thanks for sharing. An eye-opener indeed.

I’m glad you know your maid better now. Knowing what to expect from her, or what is needed to help her help you will certainly reduce a whole lot of stress.

Yes it helps. :)

]]> By: Annie Tan http://mumsgather.com/2008/07/22/getting-to-know-my-maid/#comment-287424 Annie Tan Fri, 25 Jul 2008 05:54:38 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/2008/07/22/getting-to-know-my-maid/#comment-287424 Your maid can really talk and express herself very well. I like maids who are chatty, but of course not going overboard. That way, we are able to understand what's in their mind. Moreover, chatty maid are usually more cheerful. I'm sure you are a good employer. <strong>She's rather quiet actually. Usually I just get a soft "Yes ma'am." but when you chat with her than she opens up and gets chatty and talks and laughs more. :)<strong> Your maid can really talk and express herself very well. I like maids who are chatty, but of course not going overboard. That way, we are able to understand what’s in their mind. Moreover, chatty maid are usually more cheerful. I’m sure you are a good employer.

She’s rather quiet actually. Usually I just get a soft “Yes ma’am.” but when you chat with her than she opens up and gets chatty and talks and laughs more. :)

]]> By: Irene http://mumsgather.com/2008/07/22/getting-to-know-my-maid/#comment-286453 Irene Thu, 24 Jul 2008 10:22:00 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/2008/07/22/getting-to-know-my-maid/#comment-286453 thanks for sharing, really an eye-opener o.O <strong>It was for me too. She also told me the first time her previous employer took her to a Pesta, she was so impressed by all the people. She thought that everyone looked beautiful and were dressed so well. </strong> thanks for sharing, really an eye-opener o.O

It was for me too. She also told me the first time her previous employer took her to a Pesta, she was so impressed by all the people. She thought that everyone looked beautiful and were dressed so well.

]]> By: allthingspurple http://mumsgather.com/2008/07/22/getting-to-know-my-maid/#comment-286315 allthingspurple Thu, 24 Jul 2008 08:06:14 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/2008/07/22/getting-to-know-my-maid/#comment-286315 I think the stories must be true, cos i have heard the same things you wrote from my numerous maids, except for paragraph no. 2, which differs, some have stepfathers like my previous maid of 3 years, Atin. She was made to work to support her own familyand the stepfamily. I think you are also right that they first come here with honest intention to work. Sometimes though, temptation will lead them to run away and influence of big talks from neighbouring maids will lead them to be rude and dishonest. My ex-maid Atin once told me that the neighbour told her no need to be afraid, no need to work and majikan cannot do anything wan. But my old maid, being the honest naive girl she is, just avoid the neighbouring maid after that. Not easy to do so though, with 3 other maids yelling at each other in conversation but Atin hanging clothes in silence. <strong>The influence comes from not just more "experienced" maids but also, workers (if you have houses near your being renovated), guards who ronda past your house, dishonest agents etc. They are naive and easily influenced by talks about making more and easier money working elsewhere as a restaurant helper etc instead of being maids, and as in your case, how to get away with doing less etc.</strong> I think the stories must be true, cos i have heard the same things you wrote from my numerous maids, except for paragraph no. 2, which differs, some have stepfathers like my previous maid of 3 years, Atin. She was made to work to support her own familyand the stepfamily.

I think you are also right that they first come here with honest intention to work. Sometimes though, temptation will lead them to run away and influence of big talks from neighbouring maids will lead them to be rude and dishonest. My ex-maid Atin once told me that the neighbour told her no need to be afraid, no need to work and majikan cannot do anything wan. But my old maid, being the honest naive girl she is, just avoid the neighbouring maid after that. Not easy to do so though, with 3 other maids yelling at each other in conversation but Atin hanging clothes in silence.

The influence comes from not just more “experienced” maids but also, workers (if you have houses near your being renovated), guards who ronda past your house, dishonest agents etc. They are naive and easily influenced by talks about making more and easier money working elsewhere as a restaurant helper etc instead of being maids, and as in your case, how to get away with doing less etc.

]]> By: Baby Darren http://mumsgather.com/2008/07/22/getting-to-know-my-maid/#comment-286228 Baby Darren Thu, 24 Jul 2008 06:47:57 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/2008/07/22/getting-to-know-my-maid/#comment-286228 I thought most maids are like that but mine was DIFFERENT. She came here to work not for money but for "experience". Her house got VCD player and also hi-fi set. Her kampung also lots to eat..so she is a bit fussy with the food here. I hope yours will appreciate her lifestyle here and the way you treat her. Just tell her don't simply trust other people coz they can be very naive since they come from very ulu place. <strong>Well, its ok for them to come for the experience as long as they do their work. I guess from your tone that your maid is not only different but a bit difficult as well?<strong> I thought most maids are like that but mine was DIFFERENT. She came here to work not for money but for “experience”. Her house got VCD player and also hi-fi set. Her kampung also lots to eat..so she is a bit fussy with the food here.

I hope yours will appreciate her lifestyle here and the way you treat her. Just tell her don’t simply trust other people coz they can be very naive since they come from very ulu place.

Well, its ok for them to come for the experience as long as they do their work. I guess from your tone that your maid is not only different but a bit difficult as well?

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