Comments on: When choosing a husband…. http://mumsgather.com/2008/09/02/when-choosing-a-husband/ My very own mini, personalised, parenting resource. A cyber filing cabinet of parenting articles and links. I love sharing my children's favourite sites, online games, crafts and exchanging childcare stories and parenting issues faced with other parents. Sat, 31 Jul 2010 11:27:38 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: John http://mumsgather.com/2008/09/02/when-choosing-a-husband/#comment-422013 John Fri, 13 Mar 2009 19:12:01 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/2008/09/02/when-choosing-a-husband/#comment-422013 great husband advice. Not all men are created equal. =/ great husband advice. Not all men are created equal. =/

]]> By: Julie http://mumsgather.com/2008/09/02/when-choosing-a-husband/#comment-320319 Julie Sat, 06 Sep 2008 07:16:54 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/2008/09/02/when-choosing-a-husband/#comment-320319 You are so cute and what you said is true. Yeah, never marry a mommy's boy. They never grow. :P My husband is not a mommy's boy but because my MIL staying with us, so he gets to complain to his mommy whenever he is sick (not the very sick but just migraine). He used to get migraine so I just don't bother much cause nothing can be done not even paracetamol. The most massage, massage only lor. Then my MIL will show her concern then boil some herbs, etc. She must be thinking I'm a lousy wife huh? <strong>Haha. You mai pretend pretend to boil some herbs too next time loh... but make sure you get the right herbs! lol!</strong> You are so cute and what you said is true. Yeah, never marry a mommy’s boy. They never grow. :P

My husband is not a mommy’s boy but because my MIL staying with us, so he gets to complain to his mommy whenever he is sick (not the very sick but just migraine). He used to get migraine so I just don’t bother much cause nothing can be done not even paracetamol. The most massage, massage only lor. Then my MIL will show her concern then boil some herbs, etc. She must be thinking I’m a lousy wife huh?

Haha. You mai pretend pretend to boil some herbs too next time loh… but make sure you get the right herbs! lol!

]]> By: Kopi Soh http://mumsgather.com/2008/09/02/when-choosing-a-husband/#comment-320088 Kopi Soh Sat, 06 Sep 2008 00:09:18 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/2008/09/02/when-choosing-a-husband/#comment-320088 Oh ya hor....hmmm must make sure he dun do that!! <strong>Yah yah. Donch overtrain!</strong> Oh ya hor….hmmm must make sure he dun do that!!

Yah yah. Donch overtrain!

]]> By: Kopi Soh http://mumsgather.com/2008/09/02/when-choosing-a-husband/#comment-319589 Kopi Soh Fri, 05 Sep 2008 10:24:43 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/2008/09/02/when-choosing-a-husband/#comment-319589 LOL I tell my son from young, your wife will not be your maid, she is your equal and will possibly be working so you better learn to do everything yourself. So altho he is just 13 he can cook, clean, do his own laundry, make his own bed, mop the floor, clean toilet, etc, hehe everything that i do he can do.....now mummy senang, can khiao kha wakakakaka He takes his turn cooking dinner, now he wants to learn to sew so can mend his own clothes, ironing will be next on the agenda...hmmm so i wonder, wat i do all day since both my hubby and son do most of the house work............ oh ya i on computer ;) <strong>Just one more very important thing my dear. Make very sure that he does not end up being his wife's maid! He do all the work while his wife khiao kha!</strong> LOL I tell my son from young, your wife will not be your maid, she is your equal and will possibly be working so you better learn to do everything yourself. So altho he is just 13 he can cook, clean, do his own laundry, make his own bed, mop the floor, clean toilet, etc, hehe everything that i do he can do…..now mummy senang, can khiao kha wakakakaka
He takes his turn cooking dinner, now he wants to learn to sew so can mend his own clothes, ironing will be next on the agenda…hmmm so i wonder, wat i do all day since both my hubby and son do most of the house work………… oh ya i on computer ;)

Just one more very important thing my dear. Make very sure that he does not end up being his wife’s maid! He do all the work while his wife khiao kha!

]]> By: mommy to chumsy http://mumsgather.com/2008/09/02/when-choosing-a-husband/#comment-319496 mommy to chumsy Fri, 05 Sep 2008 09:24:30 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/2008/09/02/when-choosing-a-husband/#comment-319496 mine's a mommy's boy alright :S he compares his mum's cooking with my mum since mine is staying with us and sometimes cook. sometimes i wanna tape his mouth! <strong>Haha. Maybe tape it up with his mum's food? ;)</strong> mine’s a mommy’s boy alright :S he compares his mum’s cooking with my mum since mine is staying with us and sometimes cook. sometimes i wanna tape his mouth!

Haha. Maybe tape it up with his mum’s food? ;)

]]> By: Moomykin http://mumsgather.com/2008/09/02/when-choosing-a-husband/#comment-318922 Moomykin Thu, 04 Sep 2008 17:17:22 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/2008/09/02/when-choosing-a-husband/#comment-318922 I had a good laugh reading the post and all the comments above. We laugh because we know it's true. :) I stay with my in-laws. MIL is a great cook. But she leaves the kids to me to discipline, so quite good, but of course she is also influencing them some what. But I have told hubby, if we were to live on our own, we'd be eating healthier - less fried stuff, more oven baking of meat etc. and wholesome food between two slices of bread. hahahaha... I do other stuff to take care and pamper hubby, laundry, housekeeping, and yes, getting water too. But he is not totally a slavedriver. In fact, sometimes he gets me water, helps with the laundry and mops the floor, especially when pregnant. My brother, the youngest in the family will need a wife from 3 generations ago to take care of him. He's still Mommy's boy. So teruk one,. My mom very traditional, so very double standard. <strong>Well, I'll teach my kids to learn to help around the house but at the same time I hope they'll have spouses that'll help around the house too. Like dat oni fair mah, right? I think when it comes to my own children, I might practise some double standards too and make a bad MIL. :P</strong> I had a good laugh reading the post and all the comments above. We laugh because we know it’s true. :)

I stay with my in-laws. MIL is a great cook. But she leaves the kids to me to discipline, so quite good, but of course she is also influencing them some what.

But I have told hubby, if we were to live on our own, we’d be eating healthier - less fried stuff, more oven baking of meat etc. and wholesome food between two slices of bread. hahahaha…

I do other stuff to take care and pamper hubby, laundry, housekeeping, and yes, getting water too. But he is not totally a slavedriver. In fact, sometimes he gets me water, helps with the laundry and mops the floor, especially when pregnant.

My brother, the youngest in the family will need a wife from 3 generations ago to take care of him. He’s still Mommy’s boy. So teruk one,. My mom very traditional, so very double standard.

Well, I’ll teach my kids to learn to help around the house but at the same time I hope they’ll have spouses that’ll help around the house too. Like dat oni fair mah, right? I think when it comes to my own children, I might practise some double standards too and make a bad MIL. :P

]]> By: rachel http://mumsgather.com/2008/09/02/when-choosing-a-husband/#comment-318685 rachel Thu, 04 Sep 2008 09:45:08 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/2008/09/02/when-choosing-a-husband/#comment-318685 hahahaha i like your last para. well not for me. no husband to rant about :p <strong>I don't always rant about the man because I don't think its good to talk negatively about your spouse especially in public! Besides he's a good man, a good husband and father, even though he may be a baby when sick. :P</strong> hahahaha i like your last para.

well not for me. no husband to rant about :p

I don’t always rant about the man because I don’t think its good to talk negatively about your spouse especially in public! Besides he’s a good man, a good husband and father, even though he may be a baby when sick. :P

]]> By: Syn http://mumsgather.com/2008/09/02/when-choosing-a-husband/#comment-318485 Syn Thu, 04 Sep 2008 02:33:41 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/2008/09/02/when-choosing-a-husband/#comment-318485 i'm lucky my hubby is trained from young to cook and to do his own ironing and all because his bro and him were sent away for school at 12 years onwards till uni. i have to admit he's a better cook than i am as well as ironing and folding clothes! hehe. but when his mother is around, she does all these for him. she irons everything; even home t-shirts and all. he knows my weaknesses as a woman esp in the household stuff but still, in terms of hygiene and all, i find my self much better than he is! anyway, he doesn't really complaint about this - as i am better than him in some other areas at home too. ;) i'm also lucky that my in-laws don't complaint abt me not being domestically trained. i think as long i dont abuse hubby, they shld be ok gua! hehe. but i agree with u that women who are not married need to make sure their guys are not a mummy's boy at all. i've also seen too many spoilt men out there and lately, alot of spoilt girls too - so you also have to warn your boy abt them! <strong>Yah yah, these days there are a lot of spoilt girls too. Must warn my boy about them. I think we'll make terrible MILs don't you think? Hahaha.</strong> i’m lucky my hubby is trained from young to cook and to do his own ironing and all because his bro and him were sent away for school at 12 years onwards till uni. i have to admit he’s a better cook than i am as well as ironing and folding clothes! hehe.

but when his mother is around, she does all these for him. she irons everything; even home t-shirts and all. he knows my weaknesses as a woman esp in the household stuff but still, in terms of hygiene and all, i find my self much better than he is! anyway, he doesn’t really complaint about this - as i am better than him in some other areas at home too. ;)

i’m also lucky that my in-laws don’t complaint abt me not being domestically trained. i think as long i dont abuse hubby, they shld be ok gua! hehe.

but i agree with u that women who are not married need to make sure their guys are not a mummy’s boy at all. i’ve also seen too many spoilt men out there and lately, alot of spoilt girls too - so you also have to warn your boy abt them!

Yah yah, these days there are a lot of spoilt girls too. Must warn my boy about them. I think we’ll make terrible MILs don’t you think? Hahaha.

]]> By: Ann http://mumsgather.com/2008/09/02/when-choosing-a-husband/#comment-318453 Ann Thu, 04 Sep 2008 02:05:59 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/2008/09/02/when-choosing-a-husband/#comment-318453 I laughed and laughed at this post!!! It is sooo true and it is good I can still laugh at its truth. I am lucky. Hubby doensn't really compare me with his mum....mainly coz he didnt have a very good childhood. The only thing he complains about is that I nag too much. But then I will retort it is only coz I care about him that I nag. Coz his mum didn't really bother and thus never nagged/reminded him about anything personal at all (mopping the floor doesn't count)! But yes, I am in the same boat as you when it comes to him falling ill. We also fall ill but we don't complain as much as they do! But I am thankful he helps around the house and doesn't complain when I just cook 2 dishes with rice! <strong>I'm the opposite wor. I complain that the husband nags me. Because he is so careful and meticulous and organised. I think it must be very hard for him to live with a tidak apa feler like me. Hahaha. Eh, 2 dishes with rice very good already lah. I do it all the time. Just make bigger portion of the 2 dishes. Hehe.</strong> I laughed and laughed at this post!!! It is sooo true and it is good I can still laugh at its truth.

I am lucky. Hubby doensn’t really compare me with his mum….mainly coz he didnt have a very good childhood.

The only thing he complains about is that I nag too much. But then I will retort it is only coz I care about him that I nag. Coz his mum didn’t really bother and thus never nagged/reminded him about anything personal at all (mopping the floor doesn’t count)!

But yes, I am in the same boat as you when it comes to him falling ill. We also fall ill but we don’t complain as much as they do!

But I am thankful he helps around the house and doesn’t complain when I just cook 2 dishes with rice!

I’m the opposite wor. I complain that the husband nags me. Because he is so careful and meticulous and organised. I think it must be very hard for him to live with a tidak apa feler like me. Hahaha.

Eh, 2 dishes with rice very good already lah. I do it all the time. Just make bigger portion of the 2 dishes. Hehe.

]]> By: crazymommy http://mumsgather.com/2008/09/02/when-choosing-a-husband/#comment-318036 crazymommy Wed, 03 Sep 2008 16:48:51 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/2008/09/02/when-choosing-a-husband/#comment-318036 My MIL does all almost everything for her husband and children - from pouring water for them once they are home, clear their dishes when they are done etc. You get the drift. But in my family, we do everything ourselves. So, before I started going out with him, I told him that I will never do what his mom does. If you have legs and hands, you pour your own drink, you serve yourself. So, he never expect me to wait on him. But one good thing about his mother is that... because she doesn't cook well so it is easy for me to be a much better cook than her and make my husband's tummy very happy. In fact, when she came to visit us last year for my confinement, my husband couldn't wait for me to cook for him again! Hahaa... And yes, if my daughter ever ask me for advice on selecting a husband, I will tell her ...Always find a boy whose mother is not really a supermom (i.e. cooks well, works well etc) in order to have a easy life. :P As for my son, good luck to him. Hopefully he can find someone as good as his laobu la! Muahaha... <strong>Ahahahah. I smelll double standards! lol! Come to think of it, my hubs is one of those who has to have water poured for him. After dinner I have to pour water for him and before bedtime make a hot drink for him. If I forget, he'd go "You didn't give me any water to drink!" His argument is I don't work woh..otherwise he would share the tasks half half. Pengsan. </strong> My MIL does all almost everything for her husband and children - from pouring water for them once they are home, clear their dishes when they are done etc. You get the drift. But in my family, we do everything ourselves. So, before I started going out with him, I told him that I will never do what his mom does. If you have legs and hands, you pour your own drink, you serve yourself. So, he never expect me to wait on him.

But one good thing about his mother is that… because she doesn’t cook well so it is easy for me to be a much better cook than her and make my husband’s tummy very happy. In fact, when she came to visit us last year for my confinement, my husband couldn’t wait for me to cook for him again! Hahaa…

And yes, if my daughter ever ask me for advice on selecting a husband, I will tell her …Always find a boy whose mother is not really a supermom (i.e. cooks
well, works well etc) in order to have a easy life. :P

As for my son, good luck to him. Hopefully he can find someone as good as his laobu la! Muahaha…

Ahahahah. I smelll double standards! lol! Come to think of it, my hubs is one of those who has to have water poured for him. After dinner I have to pour water for him and before bedtime make a hot drink for him. If I forget, he’d go “You didn’t give me any water to drink!” His argument is I don’t work woh..otherwise he would share the tasks half half. Pengsan.

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