Yesterday, I got the girl’s piano class time mixed up. I was trying to get her into the shower when *ding dong* the teacher had arrived. So I hurriedly pulled her back out and headed for the door.
After piano class, it was too late to bathe the kids so I sent them off to nap. It was rather late by then so they didn’t nap, after all. Then it was dinner time.
After dinner, I was doing some things for hubby and by the time I was done it was almost 9pm. I decided to bathe the kids and get them straight into their pyjamas since they missed their afternoon naps. Then I gave them their milk. (BTW, my late mum would probably have given me a good and proper scolding for bathing the kids after 7pm).
The room was in a total disarray. The bed was still unmade because I didn’t have time to do it after the kids had their “nap”. Toys and cards were everywhere. So I said ….”Children (much like the way, Maria from The Sound of Music would), rememberÂ you said you wanted to play the memory matching game? Well, its rather late now, so if you still want to have the time to play a bit before we sleep, you have to help mummy pack ok? Mummy is going to have a bath now and going to wash your bottles. By the time, I’m up, I want to see all of these toys gone and the pillows and blankets put nicely in the right place. Remember to pick up the cards too so that we have all the cards we need to play the memory game.”
Then I went to have a shower. By the time I came out, the toys had disappeared! The bed was made, the pillows were where they should be, the bedspread was nicely pulled out. The bed looked very inviting. I wish I could jump into it. Haha.
How to Stay Sane Rule #1: Be innovative! Instead of yelling at the kids to pick up the toys and then swearing under your breath whileÂ you make the bed. Give the kids a reason to pack up themselves. It’ll be done faster than you can do it yourself. Haha.
So I sat down and played the memory match game with the kids for a while. Then I remembered that I had forgotten to get them to brush their teeth during their shower. Normally, I get them to brush their teeth BEFORE they change into their pyjamas because they almost always get half their top and bottoms wet when they brush. You might think that getting the kids to brush their teeth is such and easy task but really, it can be quite stressful and time consumming. Haha.
How to stay Sane Rule #2: When you realise that you’ve messed up. Give yourself a break. Don’t sweat it. And so I sent the kids off to bed with their milk stained teeth. 😛 Pssst. I don’t always do this. Sometimes when I forget to get them to brush BEFORE changing into pyjamas, I would roll up their sleeves, then stand holding a towel between them and the sink to make sure they don’t get their pyjamas wet. Really siao!
Well, so we’re done and in bed reading 10 stories which they had picked. 5 each! Fortunately they were rather short stories. When we were almost ready to turn off the lights, I heard a voice. It said….
“Hon, you long time never massage my feet for me already hoh?”
The kids were happy to hear that as it means they can stay awake longer. So we all jumped into the bed in the adjoining room to wait for daddy to get ready for bed. After the massage and the tv watched daddy instead of the other way around, I took the kids to bed.
Soon enough, I heard soft heavy breathing from the two of them and then I stared into the darkened ceiling wide awake! I was sleepy before but after making sure everyone goes to sleep I can’t sleep anymore!
How to stay Sane Rule #3: When you can’t sleep, don’t sweat it. Think about your next blog post. And that my friend was how this blog post came into fruition. Hahaha. No, I was just kidding. When you can’t sleep, don’t think about your blog, its bound to keep you awake even more! So don’t blog in your head if you want to sleep. 😉
In another unrelated incident, we were shopping when the boy suddenly announced that he had toÂ poo. He said “No” when we asked him “Can you wait?” (Bad parents. Hehe.) So I had to trudge 2 floors down the department store to find a toilet. When I finally did, I decided to take him to a squatting toilet as I was worried that the sitting ones would be dirty. Well, the toilets weren’t child friendly. I had to squat down in front of himÂ to support him because with his little jeans, he could barely stretch to open his legs to reach the sides.
Finally, we found aÂ workable position, so there I was squatting and supporting him and holding a pile of tissue papers which I had retrieved from my handbag with one hand while holding him. And there he was looking up at me, smiling broadly and singing the Christmas songs that was playing in the background! “Aiyah, baby, don’t sing lah. Concentrate” to which he smiled even more and said “Singlah, mummy, sing.” And so I smiled back at him and sang. This is as good a moment of bonding as any, I suppose. (His father and sister were waiting impatiently at another level of the department store and here he was taking his own sweet time but I suppose you can’t really rush your poo. Hahaha.)
How to stay sane Rule #4: When in an unusual situation, don’t sweat it. Hum Christmas hymms instead. lol.Â (And as a mother of young kids, you are bound to be caught in lots and lots of unusual situations, you can be sure of that!). So stay cool. 🙂 (Psssst. I’m not always cool. Quite often I raise my voice and throw a tantrum. Hahaha. So I must remember this rule myself.)
Well, after squatting there singing Christmas hymms for a while, I stood him up and pulled up his jeans. “But mummy, I not yet ummm mmmm.” he protested. “Nevermind, we try again next door.” And we triedÂ the sitting WC in the next cubicle because he wasn’t used to squatting. One more Chrismas song and we were done. Hahaha. Cursing under my breath and asking him to hurry up is not going to make the poo come out any sooner so might as well sing instead. lol!
How to stay Sane Rule #5: Ask your maid to do it. Well, thats what I’ve been told but sorry, this is NOT ONE OF MY STAYING SANE RULES.
For example, where was my maid when I was squatting down in the toilet with the kid?Â She was right outside the toilet door chatting with the toilet janitor who was also and Indonesian. I told her to wait for us outside. Some friends think I am “crazy”. “Why don’t you ask your maid to do it?” However, I strongly believe that all this moments in parenting, the good and the not so fun is what makes you bond with your child, so I prefer to do it on my own.
I remember my friends commented to me that “Wuah, now you got maid, youÂ free already lah. When you eat outside you can eat without being disturbed as your maid can help you feed the kids.”Â However, whenever we eat out, I continue to stuff myself and the kids all at the same time like I used to do, while the maid enjoys her meal uninterrupted. When I told them that feeding the kids should be the mother’s job they think I am quite mad.
Well, taking care of young kids can really drive you mad. This is how I sometimes stay sane. (accept for Rule #5 which is my exception to the rules.)Â How do you stay sane?
u have way more patience than me. by the time evening rolls around, EEEK.. geram already. Three noisy monkeys and a grumpy mummy. hehe
one night of milk stained teeth ok 😀 well done though 😀
I think our level of patience decreases with the increase in the number of kids. 🙂
*laugh* I have 2 active boys at home, 3 and 5 years old, the only thing that’s keeping me sane is ranting on my blog! *laugh* its a de-stressing vehicle for me! *laugh*
I can see from the number of times you have *laughed* in this comment that you’re holding on to your sanity. Hahaha.
Long time ago i tot milk is good for teeth, so i let kids sleep with milk stained teeth lor. Only recently i learnt the correct fact & get her to brush daily. Opps, i forgot. she drinks the milk after brushing teeth. okok…will remember to reverse the order.
To stay sane, i close one eye and relax…too old and tired to yell edi.
Haha. I am too cheong hei already. You are the second person this week to say in one line what I am trying to say in an entire post!
Close one eye and relax or rather close two eyes and pretend not to see. Hehe.
We showered our kids at midnight…so 7 pm is very okay lor :D. How to stay sane with two kids at home? If I can be sane for half a day…consider very good already..hahaha. I wonder whether my neighbour thinks that I’m a crazy woman screaming and yelling all the times!!
And they fight all day long over anything and everything. Really beh tahan. Haha.
Sometimes I just hate myself for yelling too much.
I can understand the principal but it’s just too hard to practice!
Yell. Yell. Yell. Then feel guilty. Thats what we all do. 😛
Good rules! For me, I don’t have to yell because yelling does not make things better. I learn this from my dad, give them a stern look and firm scolding. Now every time I give the stern look, my children will listen.
I also have this tiger glare. Haha.
When I had a maid previously, I also do all the things by myself whenever involves my kids. I don’t push to the maid. My mum said I’m crazy. Got a maid already, why still make myself so busy.
When I talk about bonding, getting involved this and that, she simply doesn’t get it.
Some friends also have this misunderstanding that, got maid means easy time for us. But when we are very involved in parenting, usually that’s not the case.
However, having a maid does ease the workload off us, otherwise we would be more insane. Haha.
I think I cant follow the rule 3.
Thanks for sharing all these rules.
You always blog in your head izzit?
Although I have a maid now, I’ll make sure I am the one to give my 4 months old bath every morning… I like the feeling looking at her eyes while playing and singing to her and touching every parts of her body…. 🙂
You slave not for your kids, but also hubby….. wah…. massage somemore.
At 4 months they’re such wonders, the way they look around at us and everything is so amazing. I love it. Oh you’re making me miss the early months!
haha…I thougt at first you’re always sane 🙂
I often forget all my to-do-list after stay “insane” with all the 3.
maybe I could add 1 more rule of mine:
We have rule at home that everyone should be in their own room (I mean sleep) at 8 pm. About an hour later, after all quiet and my hubby and I finnished to pretend sleeping at the boy’s room (the teenage girl doesn’t want us anymore at bedtime), we sneak out quietly and have our own PARTY. Coffee and movies CD..:)
Thanks God, until now it still works 🙂
Wow. Your rule is really good. We have never achieved that before. Its always… kids stay up till late… then everyone zonk out at the same time. Haha.
In-sane. Now..that’s what I really know!
my respect to u MG, for still continuing to do the “motherly jobs” even when u have a maid around. i damn cannot tahan women who never do their motherly duties but yet always complain complain complain abt the maid; never look out for the kid la, wipe the bum not clean enough la, etc, while she herself is always out shopping, enjoying life, having coffee or just watching tv. it’s a normal scene in restaurants nowadays to see mothers and fathers enjoying their meals leisurely while the maids are rocking a colicky baby or entertaining a hyperactive toddler…it’s just so wrong! i find it disturbing seriously i wonder, why do these ppl bother to have kids in the first place??
Its no wonder then that kids get attached to their maids so easily because they soothe them when they’re collicky and they entertain them when they seek attention. Yes, this new trend is not a good thing but sometimes parents say they have no choice because they’re both working etc.
Well, I think having 2 kids and remaining cool is different from just having one active toddler.
But I have learnt also not to sweat the small things – clothes sitting in the washing maching waiting to be hung, plates left in the sink, toys everywhere etc. And also learn to ask hubby or other people for help (doing chores).
I still love taking care of my son by myself….I don’t ask for help in taking care of my son. But other people want to do that as well!! 🙂
Prolly he’s so cute, everyone wants to look after him… or izzit they’re just giving unwanted or unwarranted opinions? Sometimes we get lots of those but we also have to learn to close one ear the way we close one eye to the mess.
Yes, whenever I have time, I will sure blogging. I will either write something about my blog or I love to surf and read other fren’s blog.
Then you probably blog in your head too when you don’t have the time. 😉
Ya, I stopped yelling too except for times when he’s pulling a plug or something equally dangerous. Tiger glares and firm words are more effective LOL
I think we think alike in terms of what we’d prefer maids to do…
I am super paranoid when it comes to maid handling kids….