Comments on: The Fog is back http://mumsgather.com/2008/12/22/the-fog-is-back/ My very own mini, personalised, parenting resource. A cyber filing cabinet of parenting articles and links. I love sharing my children's favourite sites, online games, crafts and exchanging childcare stories and parenting issues faced with other parents. Wed, 10 Mar 2010 02:41:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: JoMel http://mumsgather.com/2008/12/22/the-fog-is-back/#comment-383121 JoMel Mon, 22 Dec 2008 14:42:06 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/?p=813#comment-383121 Hi MG, although I cannot claim to fully understand what you are going through, I do know and went through the quiet desperation, exasperation and helplessness involved in caring for someone who is not aware of himself, and I know how you must have embraced those moments when your dad is conscious of himself and his surroundings, wishing they would last longer. Hang in there MG, be strong. You have your siblings and your family, so you are definitely not alone in this journey. Your dad needs all of you, even more now than he did before. He is blessed but so are you in that this kind of life's experience is humbling. It teaches us some values in life, pushes us to grow spiritually, mentally and emotionally. And your children will learn too from observing you. Take one step at a time, a day at a time and deal with what come may in the best of your capability. *hugs* <strong>Thank you Jomel for your encouraging words. Can I hug you back. *hugs* :)</strong> Hi MG, although I cannot claim to fully understand what you are going through, I do know and went through the quiet desperation, exasperation and helplessness involved in caring for someone who is not aware of himself, and I know how you must have embraced those moments when your dad is conscious of himself and his surroundings, wishing they would last longer. Hang in there MG, be strong. You have your siblings and your family, so you are definitely not alone in this journey. Your dad needs all of you, even more now than he did before. He is blessed but so are you in that this kind of life’s experience is humbling. It teaches us some values in life, pushes us to grow spiritually, mentally and emotionally. And your children will learn too from observing you. Take one step at a time, a day at a time and deal with what come may in the best of your capability. *hugs*

Thank you Jomel for your encouraging words. Can I hug you back. *hugs* :)

]]> By: anony-mouse http://mumsgather.com/2008/12/22/the-fog-is-back/#comment-383044 anony-mouse Mon, 22 Dec 2008 11:19:29 +0000 http://mumsgather.com/?p=813#comment-383044 I am sorry, I don't mean to trivialise the difficulties of living and caring for a parent with Alzheimer's. I'm certain it must be extremely heartbreaking and testing, both emotionally and physically. It is indeed, only human to lament. You are definitely doing heaps better than I think I would, under the same circumstances. I just meant that however painful it may be, it ultimately serves us best to look for a silver lining in the clouds. Whatever circumstances life deals us with, we are helpless but for our response to the situation. The reality, as the Chinese put it, "yat chi yat yong you kor" (life still has to be lived). You dad is most blessed with you as a daughter. <strong>Oh, please do not worry about it. I understood your intentions when I read it. Your intentions of trying to look at the positive side of things. And, I'm not doing enough for my dad. Dad stays with sister throughout the year. I can't drive to see him so I depend on bros and sis to drive him to my house. I don't call him up very often because most of the time he doesn't say much and then I run out of things to say. I can't manage looking after him for 2 weeks so he'll be going to bros house for a week after a week with me and I worry how SIL is going to manage but I don't know what else to do because I have to worry about my husband and kids as well. I feel like a lousy daughter and I used to be daddy's pet too so I really should be doing more. Sigh.</strong> I am sorry, I don’t mean to trivialise the difficulties of living and caring for a parent with Alzheimer’s. I’m certain it must be extremely heartbreaking and testing, both emotionally and physically. It is indeed, only human to lament. You are definitely doing heaps better than I think I would, under the same circumstances.

I just meant that however painful it may be, it ultimately serves us best to look for a silver lining in the clouds. Whatever circumstances life deals us with, we are helpless but for our response to the situation. The reality, as the Chinese put it, “yat chi yat yong you kor” (life still has to be lived).

You dad is most blessed with you as a daughter.

Oh, please do not worry about it. I understood your intentions when I read it. Your intentions of trying to look at the positive side of things. And, I’m not doing enough for my dad. Dad stays with sister throughout the year. I can’t drive to see him so I depend on bros and sis to drive him to my house. I don’t call him up very often because most of the time he doesn’t say much and then I run out of things to say. I can’t manage looking after him for 2 weeks so he’ll be going to bros house for a week after a week with me and I worry how SIL is going to manage but I don’t know what else to do because I have to worry about my husband and kids as well. I feel like a lousy daughter and I used to be daddy’s pet too so I really should be doing more. Sigh.

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