I do not have a Facebook Account

I do not have a Facebook Account. Confused?

I meant the real me does not have a Facebook Account. However the blogger in me has a Facebook Account. Since I have several blogs, I thought it would be a good idea to sort of consolidate them all in one place and Facebook gives me a way of doing so. Each time I update any of my few blogs, I update my Facebook.

That is the only reason why I have a Facebook Account. It is to connect with my blogger and other online friends. Which explains why I have friends I sometimes do not really know. When you have a blog, you sometimes have friends you don’t really know. In fact, sometimes you don’t even know that you have friends that you don’t really know (as in silent readers.)

Apart from this reason, the other reason is, I find it very useful as a networking tool with other parents as in “Where can I buy this book?” “I am having kid exam stress” etc. Networking in this manner makes the burden lighter when shared. Sharing with like minded people in the same situation helps a lot. It is much easier than calling up a dozen friends to complain about the same issue. After awhile, even I feel tired of listening to myself. However, a quick status update on Facebook, along with its encouraging, positive and helpful comments is a big relief. I love Facebook in that sense.

However, what I share with other parents on my parents networking list may not be what I would like to share with other friends or relatives etc who may be on my Facebook friends list too. That is why they are not in my Facebook Friends List.

Sounds ridiculous? My closest friends are not on my Facebook Friend’s List but strangers and acquiantances are. Well, that is just me. I personally do not enjoy this social networking thingy (with the above exception) but there is no escaping it is there. We are in that era and I must somehow understand it because my children will be caught up in that world, in time. That is why I have Facebook and Twitter and blogs.

I do not feel very comfortable giving up to the minute details to the world about what I am currently doing, have recently done or about to do. I do not like to post photos of myself or my family. I am just not at all used to the idea of posting pictures of myself and my family along with updates for all my friends as a new form of keeping in touch and catching up with each other. It just feels so strange to me. That is why I have a Facebook account without a Face. Rather silly isn’t it? That is what kept me from opening a Facebook Account till recently. It is the fact that I could not post a Face.

I am a rather private person. But then I have 3-4 blogs? How is that so? Well, I like to write, that is why I have my blogs to express myself. I have a blog but I find that one can be personal without being too personal on a blog and I realise now, even on Facebook (after braving myself to open an account without a Face). So yes, a private person can still have several blogs and a Facebook account.

Anyone who knows the real me and who knows that I do not have a Facebook Account will say “What? You mean you do not have a Facebook Account?” It does not bother me at all because they do not know that I have several blogs and a Facebook Account to consolidate them all in.

I really prefer it this way. I have real friends whom I prefer to keep in touch with in person and then I have my online friends whom I can only keep in touch with online. This way, I get to enjoy the best of both worlds and yet still maintain my desire to remain private. Having a public life is not for me but who knows, maybe one day, I may open a Facebook account for the real me and then the real me can be friends with the online me and no one would be any the wiser and that is exactly how I like it. 😛


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7 thoughts on “I do not have a Facebook Account

  1. You’re right, there are something we can share with friends but not blogger friends and vice versa! I hadn’t been addicted to FB until I got this hand me down iPhone frm my hubs! Only if you have one, you’ll know how easy you can pop in and get yourself updated by others status 24/7! The bar of ‘what’s on your mind’ is so tempting too when you pop in!  But eventually I found that the more you share the less privacy you have..i found it’s actually unhealthy and insignificant! Anyway now I m still sharing some of the photos for there are my friends who really want to know the growth of my baby! 🙂 but not the ongoing status! 
     
    Well, I’m just like you that I prefer keeping a distance with my blogger friends! Unless we bump into each other say during our shopping in one Utama, pls if you can recognize me, come up to me and say hello! 🙂 

    for my blog, I will stop posting the baby’s photos maybe after 1-2 years! (now she is still  in metamorphosis, it’s ok to post her photos I think) I have stopped putting her brother’s photos on my blog! I’m thinking to remove all one day, see how! 🙂   

  2. huh? What happened to the comment? out of frame? nvm i copy and paste again! see work or not! lol

    You’re right, there are something we can share with friends but not blogger friends and vice versa! I hadn’t been addicted to FB until I got this hand me down iPhone frm my hubs! Only if you have one, you’ll know how easy you can pop in and get yourself updated by others status 24/7! The bar of ’what’s on your mind’ is so tempting too when you pop in! But eventually I found that the more you share the less privacy you have..i found it’s actually unhealthy and insignificant! Anyway now I m still sharing some of the photos for there are my friends who really want to know the growth of my baby! 🙂 but not the ongoing status!

    Well, I’m just like you that I prefer keeping a distance with my blogger friends! Unless we bump into each other say during our shopping in one Utama, pls if you can recognize me, come up to me and say hello! 🙂
    for my blog, I will stop posting the baby’s photos maybe after 1-2 years! (now she is still in metamorphosis, it’s ok to post her photos I think) I have stopped putting her brother’s photos on my blog! I’m thinking to remove all

    Not sure if I can recognise you. Hehe. But onced I stopped to say Hi to sasha and she was so surprised it left her speechless! Hahaha.

  3. I am also not comfortable to post photos of myself and my family in the blog (only post photos of places), just don’t feel comfortable and safe

    I have a personal facebook which I don’t reveal my blog
    On the other hand, I have a nick name facebook, for blogger friends only, whom can read my blog updates

    heehee….not confusing right? 😀

    haha. no not confusing at all.

  4. I have 3 facebook account, 1 for my family and related friends, and the other is to promote my blog and my business.
    But i never share my personal problem in my face book account. or me is better to talk directly to our closest friend than to share with many people in my account.
    But i have a friend who always share what he is doing in his facebook account every 10 minute, Sound ridiculous isn’t it

    I wonder how many ppl have several FB accounts. I don’t mind sharing problems at times but not every 10 minutes!

  5. Same here, I am also not comfortable with posting photos of myself and my family in blogs. But I really love blogging! It’s quite contradictory, actually. There’s a part of me that wants to show my pictures, and there’s another that doesn’t. I may give in to the temptation after all, especially after my first baby is born in early nov… Still thinking about it…

    If you have a part of you that says share…. then I believe that part will win over eventually. Haha.

  6. It has been a while since I first read your blog.
    My real fb me also different from my blog me. I don’t share my blog on facebook. I just don’t like the ones who know the real me also know the other side of me…. sounds confusing… haha. But I wouldn’t mind my blog friends who don’t know the real me got to know the real me. Yes. I do share my blog with close family members.. as I need to rant sometimes, and I don’t want to talk about the same thing over and over again.

    Blogs without photos usually don’t get me interested in reading… but yours is just different…

  7. It took alot of courage on my part to open a Facebook account just a week back, because of my blog. I’m really impressed and inspired by how you stand by your principles regarding your privacy. 2 thumbs up for you! Also kudos to you for having a face-less facebook!

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