This year for hubby’s birthday, he was on leave. His birthday is near Chinese New Year as it always is. However this year, something was different. This year, the kids were both at school in the morning. Hurrah!
So we had 2-3 hours to ourselves to “paktor” just like the old times. We went to “jalan-jalan” and held hands like we did in our 20s and 30s but here we are now both in our 40s. 🙂
Quite often when we are with the kids, we have no time to hold hands because either one of us would be holding one or two pairs of little hands.
We don’t have anyone we can rely on to babysit for a few hours so it is unrealistic for us to go for the suggested “date nights” that one is “supposed to go on” to keep your relationship with your spouse alive instead of concentrating on family and talk about babies and children all the time.
Now that the kids are old enough to be in school we can have stolen moments again.
I often see my neighbours having stolen moments after their 3 kids are in school. They would walk out together for breakfast holding hands.
So, to parents of very young babies and toddlers who never seem to have the time, be patient, you will find time again for each other once the kids grow up and they grow up so very fast.
The bonds of matrimony are like any other bonds – they mature slowly. ~Peter De Vries