I have a good helper at home. “But you are not working. Why do you need a maid?” Well, initially we got a maid to help out because of health reasons but it has turned out very well indeed. Because of her, I have time to concentrate on my children fully. I do not have to rush and slave in front of the stove, ironing board, toilet bowl, floor whatever.
My life is a rush as it is, even with a maid. Without one, I would be harrassed, irrate, even more rushed. I’d probably bark and bite anyone who is trying to cross me while I am rushing to complete things. The children would have a more irritable mum, and the husband would have a short tempered, stressed up wife. Hmm… actually he does have a short tempered, stressed up wife but in a lesser degree. 😉
“Oh you are so pampered. You are a housewife with only two kids and you have a maid. You don’t have to go to work and you have a maid.” Well, actually we could do without one now that my health has improved somewhat but life with one ( a good one, that is) is so much more calmer. When I am rushing around making sure the kids get their bath and do their work, I look at the hot food on the table and the fact that I don’t have to worry about the dishes afterwards and sigh with such relief!
I look at the nicely ironed school uniforms and clean school shoes and sigh with more relief! The maid does not help me at all with the kids and she is relieved about that. In her previous employment she had to take care of two young kids about the age of mine and because she was with them so much, she became surrogate mum and the kids cling to her wherever she goes. She did not have to do much housework then, her main job was to look after the kids but she tells me that doing housework is easier. I can attest to that. 😉
We have not always been this “pampered”. When the kids were younger and before my health issue surfaced, I used to look after the baby, the toddler, the house, the cooking etc without any help. Not even during confinement during the early days when baby was born for both babies. We did not have a confinement lady or any female relative who could come round to help out occassionally. I do have female relatives of course, but everyone is caught up with their own lives and routines, no one can come round to help. So we did it all ourselves, with the help of books and the internet and catered food during the confinement period. We look back at ourselves and laugh now but it was tough then. Very very tough especially since I had trouble breastfeeding both babies. I don’t know why both the babies have latching problems so breastfeeding was unsuccessful for the first two whole months for both my babies. Gosh, that was tiring!
Since we had gone through the tough, did it all ourselves time, we do appreciate our maid now, more then ever. 🙂
There’s actually a lot of petty work to be done at home. My helper will be leaving soon, and we are not hiring any new one. Hope I can cope.
Good Luck to you! With 4, I’d faint! lol.
Glad that you have passed the most difficult moments, you have really been through a lot! I’m a SAHM and realize there’s a never ending chores waiting at home(plus 2 kids), it’s always great to have a helper at home!;D
Keep well and take care!
Thanks Alice. There’s always never ending chores, you are so right about that.
Your post gave me a relieve. I do not have a fulltime maid now, only parttime maids that come weekly to clean the house. That also if they can slot into their schedule.
I am working fulltime with 1 kid, and I cooked dinner daily, go to market weekly…managing all on my own with hubby’s help here n there. It is tough life and I found myself constantly rushing. Seeing my kid growing healhty and happy and mu hubby doing well are what keeps me going 🙂
I taught I do not deserve a maid and can be a superwoman because getting a maid is costly. The money can be put to better use. Now, I think I would demand for a maid if I ever have 2nd kid. A good maid is really God sent and are like gold…indeed!
Best not to use the “demand” word. “Request” sounds better. Haha. We had never wanted a maid in our lives because we hate the fact of losing privacy. That is why we never even got a confinement lady to help us. However circumstances forced us to have a maid and now that we do, we find that it is so helpful to have one. Now I can concentrate on the things that really matters, ie my children and my husband instead of fretting over housework all the time. To me housework is not important. People are. I also have another motto. It is better to have a house filled with love and covered with dust than to have a spotless house that is cold and empty of feeling. My perfect excuse for being lazy to do housework during those days when I didn’t have a helper. 😉
Hi, just popped by your blog after being “recommended” hehehe. Btw, I feel cheesed off when ppl think that we SAHM (NOT NOT NOT housewives – that’s politically incorrect) do not need maids because we stay at home. And whoever thinks that we are shaking legs because we have a maid, even with one or two or more kids, must be the most uninitiated, out dated person who knows of next to nothing of running a home.
A good helper is a blessing. I had my share of good and bad ones. Thank God I’m living with a good one now so I keep sane.
Hi Irene, welcome to my blog. Thank you for visiting. “recommended”? Haha. I find that very funny. 🙂
“whoever thinks that we are shaking legs because we have a maid, even with one or two or more kids, must be the most uninitiated, out dated person who knows of next to nothing of running a home.”
Yes. Yes. I totally agree with you on this. A kid requires a lot of attention, much more than a house. lol. And that is where my priority lies. 🙂